How to Stop Sabotaging Your Dreams

How to Stop Sabotaging Your Dreams

I once heard that the wealthiest place is the graveyard, because of all the unrealized dreams that never came to be.

Unwritten best-sellers, small businesses that never were, missed opportunities that could have led to a major breakthrough.

So many people let their dreams slip through their fingertips like sand through an hourglass.

But I don’t want that to be you.

If you’re sitting on a dream, you might resonate with one of the following reasons people self-sabotage their dreams.

My hope is that you read something in this list that gives you that “ah-ha!” moment and motivation you need to get started.

Life is too short to not pursue your dreams.

Let’s get started…

Here are the ways you’re self-sabotaging your dreams.

How to Stop Sabotaging Your Dreams

You Can’t Visualize Your Dream

Visualization is important.

You need to be able to see your future identity living out your dream.

Enjoying your dream.

You must be able to imagine it, every day.

See yourself doing your dream.

Living your dream.

For me, I see myself so clearly working full time producing content on my website and helping women.

I visualize this every day.

What do you see when you visualize your dream? Can you see it?

When you think about your life one, two, five years from now, what do you see?

Resource: Imagine Big

Your Dream Lacks Intrinsic Value

Would you get an internal reward from this dream?

Do you enjoy the work it takes to get there?

Would this dream bring meaning and fulfillment to your life?

If not, your dream lacks intrinsic value.

As an example, I love the work I put in producing content on my website.

The learning process of building a website has been so rewarding, even though some aspects of the process isn’t my strong suit.

Hours fly by when I’m working on my website. I love it.

Someday, I’m going to have a sustainable career solely from my website.

Your Dream doesn’t have Utility Value

If you go for that dream or goal, are there tangible rewards?

Let’s say you put money into your dream-would you get that money back?

What is the point of your dream or goal?

The point of my dream to be a full-time content creator is to help other women thrive in life, so when they’re laying on their deathbed and look back on life, they know they lived it to their fullest, with no regrets.

I also want to work from home full-time and and experience owning my own business and being my own boss.

To me, there is so much freedom in this.

Whatever your dream is, you must identify the intrinsic value of it to feel passionate enough to pursue it, or what’s the point?

You use the Cost of Opportunity as an Excuse

The cost of opportunity is the sacrifice it would take to achieve your dream.

You may have to sacrifice some of your time spent on hobbies or things you enjoy in order to see your dream fulfilled.

But if the cost of opportunity for your dream is too much for you to bear, you won’t go after it.

The truth is, you can still keep your hobbies and the things you enjoy.

You may not get as much time for those hobbies if you’re pursing your dream, but you don’t have to abandon them.

But on that note-if it’s a dream you feel strongly about, you just might find yourself enjoying the process and actually wanting to spend all your free time on your dream.

If that’s the case, take it as a strong sign you’re on your way to achieving your dream.

You Think You Don’t Have Control

If you believe you lack personal control over seeing your dreams come to fruition, you’ve already lost.

You won’t even try.

A high sense of personal control is someone who says, “I’m in it, and I’m doing it.”

High efficacy.

You have to own your dreams and just get started. Take massive action.

External circumstances don’t control your life-you do.

Resources:

Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself

You Lack Social Support

Just because you lack social support, doesn’t mean you can’t chase your goals.

If your family doesn’t support your dreams and you use it as an excuse not to pursue them, you’re self-sabotaging your dreams.

Not everyone has to believe in you for you to succeed.

Most people are so caught up in their own dreams and goals that they’re bound to think what you want to do is “crazy.”

It is your job to carry this dream out to the finish line, not anyone else’s.

You’re less likely to take action if you focus on other people not believing in you.

Others not believing in you doesn’t justify your dream as null.

They don’t see what you see-they don’t get it.

So pursue your dream anyway.

You Don’t Think You Have the Bandwidth to Pursue Your Dream

If you believe you don’t have the bandwidth to pursue your dream consistently, you’ll stop trying.

Bandwidth is time or resources.

If you want this dream bad enough, you’ll make time to pursue it and you’ll find the resources.

You may have to borrow or build the resources, but you won’t let that stop you.

For example, I know a lot of people who want to get into the online business world, blame lack of finances for getting started.

The truth is, getting started with an online business is a lot cheaper than starting a brick-and-mortar business.

It’s not nearly as much money.

But anyone who is put off by starting an online business because of the costs for web hosting and other expenses isn’t going to be in it for the long haul.

Seeing the process through until your dream is achieved isn’t easy.

If you want something bad enough, you’ll find the resources-including money-to make it happen.

You’ll quit spending on things you don’t need and save for your dream. Or you’ll sell items you no longer use to raise the money.

An abundant mindset will always find a way.

You Just Don’t Have the Energy

If you have everything else you need to pursue dreams but you’re lacking the energy to do so, you won’t.

You have to create that energy.

A good place to start is to look at your health habits. Clean them up if you need to.

Make sure you’re getting exercise most days a week and eating foods that fuel your energy level.

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Before You Go

In what ways are you self-sabotaging your dreams?

What would you do now-today-if you knew your dream could be realized in two years? Five years? Ten years?

Own your dream. The longer you delay getting started, the less likely you ever will.

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Hi! I'm Lisa. I help women live purposeful, fulfilling and joyful lives. I'm happily married and a fur mom to two boxers and two rabbits. I love Jesus, freelance writing, fitness, personal development, reading books, football, cross-stitching, and video games.