3 Mindset Makeovers to Make Today

3 Mindset Makeovers to Make Today

When you make over your mind, you can make over your entire life.

Everything starts in the mind. Circumstances are neutral.

You get to choose what you believe about yourself and you get to create it.

Your thoughts and feelings will always create your results.

Look around you right now. Everything you see was created by you, in your mind.

Your home. The car you drive. Your career and relationships. The clothes in your closet and the money in your bank account.

All of it.

I don’t say this to be harsh, but I do say it to get you fired up if you don’t like what you see, because I want you to know you are 100% capable of changing your life by changing your mind.

And now, it’s time for a little mindset makeover.

Here are three mindset makeovers to make today.

Reprogram Your Future Self by Dumping Your Past

“When your past calls, don’t answer. It has nothing new to say.” ~Anonymous

I want you to think for a moment and ask yourself if you are a past-focused person.

Do you dwell on the past?

When a situation arises that is similar to one you’ve dealt with in the past, do you expect the same results based on that past experience?

Do you assume because you were rejected by someone in your childhood, you’ll be rejected again in adulthood?

When you are focused on the past, you recycle through old thoughts and feelings repeatedly instead of replacing them with new thoughts and feelings.

Think of running endlessly on a hamster wheel with no movement forward.

Here are some examples of how past-focused people think:

People always leave me.
I already tried that and it didn’t work.
Money will always be tight.
I’ll never be happy.
These are just the cards I was dealt in life.
I’m not good enough to get the job I want.

It’s hard not to think based on past experiences-it’s all we know.

But you are 100% worthy and capable of creating a new future and leaving old thought patterns behind for good.

Your past does not define you and you are not that person anymore.

If I were to look back 10 years ago today and examine my past self, I’d see a single 28-year-old woman who managed an Abercrombie store, whose main “hobby” was going to the bar on a near-nightly basis.

I don’t even look like her anymore, much less think or act like her.

Growing up, I was bullied for various reasons and told various things that I held on to and manifested as not being good enough. Then, in my 20’s, I took jobs and entered into relationships that were a reflection of this belief: that I wasn’t enough.

It wasn’t until I entered my 30’s I was able to dump all of these old beliefs. As a result, I landed a great job that I stayed at for 7 years and met my husband, an exceptional man I knew I was going to marry shortly into our relationship (and he knew he wanted to marry me, too).

Whoever your past self was, sever ties with her today. She’s not an accurate reflection of your present self and definitely not your future self.

I was only able to create a new future after I dumped my past self and changed my thoughts and beliefs.

New thoughts and beliefs led me to a better job, better habits and hobbies, and more meaningful relationships.

You are only doomed to repeat more of the same if you don’t realize the potential to create your dream future is within you and has nothing to do with your past or the circumstances you’re facing now.

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Questions for Self-Reflection: Brainstorming a New Future

If you’re not sure what kind of future you want to create for yourself, here are some open-ended questions for self-reflection:

What are you most proud of?
When did a failure set up your future?
What are your biggest goals?
In what aspect of your life do you want to grow?
What is a bad habit you have now that your future self doesn’t have?
Do you engage in personal development?
What have you learned from past mistakes?
Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
Are your relationships thriving?
What are your values?
Are you making your health a priority?
What are your biggest roadblocks to becoming your future self?
Do you have the right mindset about money?
Are you happy with your home and where you live?
What is one thing you can change today that would inch you one step closer to your future self?

Discovering Your Future Self

Pretend you’re already your future self.

Now, answer these questions…

What did I create to become the woman I am today?
How did I have to think differently to become her?
What actions did I take to get here?
How am I feeling now that I’m my future self?
What three words describe me?
Who are the people I hang out with?
What is my relationship with money like?
Where am I in my career?
What are my relationships like?

It’s not pre-determined who you were meant to be.

You’re only as limited as your mind believes you are.

The life you create in your present is the life you will create in your future.

If you’re not happy with the life you created, it’s time to reprogram your future.

You must start thinking and acting based on your future self, today.

What does your future self look like? How does she act? What has she accomplished?

Get obsessed with her and start practicing being her now.

I’m going to show you how to do that next…

Rewire Your Present Self

In order to reprogram your future self, you need to rewire your present self.

Once you figure out who you want to be in your future, you can start showing up as her today.

Think about who you need to show up as to be that woman you see in your future.

Then, think on purpose as the woman who is already living it.

You must become someone you’ve never been to do something you’ve never done.

In the present moment is where you are able to create your life. Not tomorrow or Friday or next week.

Right now.

You’re going to feel resistance in becoming the future woman you’ve created in your mind. Refuse to continue old thought patterns, beliefs, and actions.

The present moment is the perfect time to practice being your future self.

Practice the actions of your future self.

What would your future self wear? Practice dressing like her.

When you’re able to practice your future self on a daily basis, that’s where change begins.

Many women operate in their past subconsciously, and it’s why they never rise above their past circumstances.

It’s like that old quote by Henry Ford says: “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got.”

If you don’t change, nothing else will change.

That 10-years-ago version of me I mentioned earlier? I dumped her a few years later. And it wasn’t always easy-I was met with a lot of resistance to practice becoming my future self-but the payoff in the long run was worth it.

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